'Picky' in Dating: You're Kidding Yourself!

Lately, I've come across a handful of people in various settings who swear to me that they reason they don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend is because they're simply picky. When they say it, I might add, they say it in a way that that suggests that the problems is others - not themselves.

The truth is that people who are extremely picky in dating - I'm talking about nothing ever lasting longer than six months - are actually terrified of intimacy. Yet by telling themselves that they're picky, they make themselves feel better while simultaneously living in denial about the real problem: it's them and their distorted thinking!

Hey, let's be honest: You shouldn't be falling in love with every random person you meet for a dinner date, but you should be meeting someone who is GOOD ENOUGH. Picky people are living in fear and waste their time daydreaming about Mr. or Miss Perfection who supposedly arrives one day at the doorstep. If this is you, give up the fantasies (as the Brits like to say) straight away. If this is your friend, co-worker, or family member, gently help them see the error of their ways. If you don't have the stomach for confrontation, send them to my blog and they'll get the hint pretty quickly!