Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Monday, March 21, 2011

Dating: How to Annoy a Woman

Okay, let's not make this more complicated than it is: There are a few sure-fire ways to annoy a woman you're on a date with, and I don't recommend that you try any of them.

One of the most consistent reports that I get from female clients who are testing dating waters is that men only seem to talk about themselves. These men would rather answer questions about their lives and talk about what they're doing than take the time to verbally show some interest in the women sitting across from them at the dinner table.

The reality - whether you like it or not - is that we're all little babies deep down, overgrown children who still want and need attention. I don't fault anyone for it, because it's human nature to respond when someone shows interest in you. The problem develops when you're not reciprocating!

Whether you are a man or a woman, make an effort to be aware of your behavior the next time you are on date. Make sure that you take the time to ask your date about what's going on in his or her life, and really listen to the responses. Ask questions about interests and hobbies, rather than the all-too-predictable questions about professional status which ultimately reflect a hidden agenda to find out how much money he or she makes.

At the end of the day, you will have the greatest romantic success when you start displaying compassion and good social skills - and giving your date room to talk, too, is Social Skill # 1 that everyone should already have mastered!

PLUS: In Dr. Seth's new book, Dr. Seth's Love Prescription (available at Amazon.com or in stores at Borders and Barnes and Noble), he shows you how to stop repeating bad patterns in your romantic relationships. If you or someone you know keeps going for the wrong types of people and seems stuck on this awful hamster wheel, pick up a copy of Dr. Seth's Love Prescription today.

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