This may sound counterintuitive, but the truth is that alone time is good for romantic relationships. Far too often, if one's boyfriend or girlfriend, or husband or wife says that they need a little alone time, the other partner ends up taking it personally. This can often lead to questioning the relationship, self-doubt, and a host of other masochistic thoughts and feelings. The reality is that sometimes alone time...is just alone time - it doesn't have to mean anything more than that.
Each partner in a relationship engaging in some activities alone, including have friends or activities independent of each other, is a way to make sure that you're not losing yourself in the relationship. By spending some time alone and doing the things that you want to do, you feed your own passions and interests, and you will often feel more excited to reconnect with your partner at the end of the day.
Everyone needs to understand that taking a little alone time shouldn't be taken personally or used as a barometer to tell how happy the person taking alone time is in the relationship. At the end of the day, taking some alone time is a great way for a person to recharge his or batteries. If you are in a relationship, make sure that you and your partner are spending some time alone, so that you remain a happy, independent half of the couple. Two independent people in a relationship equal dependence on each other that is healthy but not stifling.
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