Saturday, June 12, 2010
Your Romantic To-Do List
If you are in a relationship, take this advice and pass it on to a friend. If you are single, use this advice yourself!
Perhaps you’re a list-maker, perhaps you’re not. I, myself, am guilty of creating the silliest lists for the most trivial projects. Making lists helps to organize your thoughts and the way you approach your daily activities. Though you may occasionally draft your own lists, you may not have tried creating a to-do list that speaks to your romantic goals.
Try this simple activity: write a list of 5 activities you will engage in to meet someone new, and then make a list of the five characteristics that you want your future romantic partner to have. As you write your list, make sure to use direct, strong language (“I will…vs. I want to…”).
In my relationship-oriented self-help book that comes out in December, Dr. Seth's Love Prescription, I have pages and pages of inventories in which the reader will engage in fill-in-the-blank exercises and write an assortment of lists. I’ve written the book this way because writing can organize your thoughts and solidify your goals. Most of all, writing makes you feel like you are taking action rather than sitting around, waiting for something good to happen.
Try creating your own romantic to-do list today, and you can go back and make changes later or write new ones until you meet your romantic goal: finding a partner who fits you and your life overall!