Friday, September 14, 2012
Long Distance Relationships: 5 Steps to Make It Work!
If you are going to give a long distance relationship a shot, try using the following techniques to ensure that your relationship has a decent chance at lasting.
Tip # 1: Tell your partner what your long-term goal is for the relationship, and ask him or her to share the same. Marriage? Living together? Living in the same city? Be clear from the beginning.
Tip # 2: Have a “Fears Discussion.” Tell your partner “I’m kind of afraid if we live apart for too long that you might…or that I might…” Again, ask your partner to share his or her fears. This is how intimacy develops.
Tip # 3: Set fixed times to communicate on the phone.
Tip # 4: Arrange a visiting schedule that will allow you to see each other regularly and stick to this schedule.
Tip # 5: Be honest if you start feeling disconnected from your partner, and ask your partner to share the same feelings if he or she has the same feelings – at that point or ever!
Again, these relationships aren’t easy, but nobody said that true love is a walk in the park. Arm yourself with good coping skills and you will be better off in the end - in your long distance relationship, as well as all of your other relationships in life.
PLUS: Check out my book, Dr. Seth's Love Prescription which shows you how to stop repeating bad patterns in your romantic relationships. I shed light on the four patterns that get repeated the most: saving wounded souls; focusing too much on a specific, physical type; fear of intimacy and denial; and getting involved with people who are physically, verbally, or psychologically abusive.