Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Why You Should Try COUPLES Therapy

Back in the day, seeking out a therapist was a virtual no-no. Those who had therapists were considered crazy or mentally ill, and individuals and couples were afraid to start seeing a therapist because of the stigma.

Man, have times changed. Today, people talk fairly openly about seeing a therapist, and co-workers listen to each other's dramas at the water cooler and now casually suggest, "You should probably talk to someone."

For couples, I find that couples therapy is one of the smartest investments they can make. Why? Because every member of every couple across the world has some sort of built-up resentment that's been marinating for a while. Those who deny this reality are probably some of the most resentful deep down!

Couples therapy gives couples a space to vent their negative feelings, and even the best relationships have their fair share of frustration and resentments. The couples who have never tried therapy - or wouldn't dare to try it - are often afraid that talking about problems will open Pandora's box. The logic is that opening the floodgates might lead to the end of the relationship.

I always tell people the same thing: couples therapy won't break up your relationship unless the truth is that the two of you aren't meant to be together. So, be fearless and responsible, and consider talking to a trained mental health clincian when you hit a rocky patch in your relationship. It could truly save your relationship and make it better, to boot!

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