Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

How to Find a Wife: It's Like a "Greatest Hits" CD

"I think it might be over with me and my girlfriend."

At a seminar where I recently spoke, a man came up to me after I spoke and asked for a little advice. He told me his situation and explained that he was afraid that his days were numbered with his girlfriend, and shared in detail his feeling that he somehow failed and should have found The One by this point in time.

While I can understand the cruddy feelings that come with a potential breakup, I told him that his perception of the relationship overall was skewed. The truth, I told him, is that each relationship is supposed to teach you something important that will lead you to The One. If you haven't yet found it, it means that you may have another relationship or two to go through before you figure out which kind of person you truly need.

A relationship ending is never a failure - it's all about the learning experience. A wife, I explained, is like a Greatest Hits CD, a combination of the best parts of the various women he's been with in the past. Sadly for the man who approached me at the seminar, it turned out that his soon-to-be ex would turn out to be just a song on the album of his life, rather than the full CD that he wanted to listen to for years to come.

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