Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Couples, Keep Your Parents Out of It!

When things go wrong, it's a normal tendency to want to run to Mom or Dad to help you cope with a problem - no matter how old you are. Even as adults, we sometimes feel the need to cry on their shoulders. However, when it comes to marital conflicts, it's important to keep your parents out of it.

Sharing too much with your parents about a conflict between you and your partner can cause your parents to take sides and to develop negative feelings toward your parents. The real danger? Your parents will never forget, even long after you've forgiven your partner.

As a rule, try to keep your parents out of your conflicts when it comes to situations that expose any real vulnerabilities of your partner or anything that has to do with sex. Some things should simply remain private. Just like you (hopefully) don't take your parents to bed with you, don't bring them into your major relationship conflicts, either.

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