Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Sunday, August 8, 2010

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

I receive many e-mails from women asking about secrets to making a long distance relationship work. In response to these e-mails, I have come up with some quick tips that can help to keep the spark alive and keep the intimacy vibrant. Below, I have listed the tips and hope you find them helpful!

Tip # 1: After a weekend together when he is getting ready to leave, stick some little notes in his luggage for him to find later.

Tip # 2: Keep a photo of the two of you in your wallet, and pull it out when you miss him. Also keep photos at your desk at work and at home, and keep one on your wallpaper on your cell phone or your key chain. Always keep him in sight!

Tip # 3: Have a date night on the phone. Slip into your pajamas, pour a glass of wine, and settle in for a relaxing conversation. Lay down and close your eyes, and you can imagine when he’s talking that he’s right next to you.

Tip # 4: Keep a shirt or baseball cap of his, and keep it on a chair in your room or on the bed to remind you of him.

Tip # 5: Ask him on occasion to send pictures of himself on his camera phone so that you feel like you’re right there with him. If he’s at a concert, ask him to call you, hold the phone out, and leave a message so that you feel like you get to experience a part of the concert with him.

Tip # 6: Make sure to tell him about the events in your life that make you feel good or bad, because these are the parts of your day that affect you the most, and you want him to know what’s really going on with you. Tell him you want him to share the same kind of details.

Tip # 7: Don’t settle into a routine in which you call him every day at exactly the same time. Throw in an occasional call for a surprise and say “just wanted to hear your voice.”

Tip # 8: It may sound silly, but write letters – even if just one or two per year. Tell him what’s been going on and, most of all, tell him WHY you miss him. Telling him why you miss him reminds him that he is truly appreciated.

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