Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

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When Should Couples Seek Therapy?

Every romantic relationship has its ups and downs, but when should you pick up the phone and start dialing marriage therapists? The answer will vary for every couple, but here are a few questions that will help you to determine if your relationship needs special attention.

1. Are your essential romantic needs are being met? These needs may be emotional, sexual, etc...

2. Do you feel that the two of you have communication problems? Effective communication is a common challenge for couples. Strong communication is a hallmark of a healthy relationship.

3. Are dysfunctional patterns straining your relationship? Does the same argument seems to crop up time and time again?, Or is there a long-standing problem never seems to be resolved?

4. Does your relationship cause more stress than comfort? Relationships are supposed to enrich our lives, not consistently strain them to the breaking point.

5. Do you simply want to strengthen the relationship? Couples therapy doesn't have to be triage! In fact, some of the best and most productive work is done when couples seek help before a crisis. Therapists can couples with everything from expressing anger more effectively to appreciating the best qualities of your partner.

6. Do you want to end the relationship? The goal of couples therapy is not necessarily to keep the couple together at all costs. Some couples seek therapy when they know the end is near but want to break-up as gracefully as possible. Of course you don't want to ambush your partner with a planned break-up session, but a therapist can help both of you through the end phase of a relationship.

Answering "yes" to any one of these questions indicates that your relationship could benefit from a some therapeutic TLC. Think about your particular situation and what would be the goal of the therapy. Also, remember that some insurance plans will cover this type of behavioral health treatment.

Couples therapy is a great investment in the future of your relationship!

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