Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Guest Blogger: Amanda Kane, LSW

Surviving Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day can be a difficult holiday if you’ve recently experienced a breakup. Red and pink hearts, boxes of chocolate, and sappy couples seem to be horribly omnipresent. How should the newly single celebrate (or survive) such a relationship-centric holiday? Here are some ideas…

1.) Host a “Blind Date Party” for your single friends. Ask friends to bring another single, eligible person who is looking for love. Add some cocktails and watch the sparks fly!

2.) Throw a “Mr. X Party.” Ask everyone to bring any mementos or pictures from past relationships. Then fire up the bar-be-que pit or shredder! (Use caution and common sense). Sometimes the disposal of symbolic remnants from past relationships can help people grieve and move-on. Create an accompanying party soundtrack with breakup-themed music (think Alanis Morrisette).

3.) Invite your single friends over for a romantic movie marathon. Stories heavy on the teen angst are always crowd-pleasers. Some of my favorites include ‘80s Molly Ringwald classics and the John Cusack movie, Say Anything. Or maybe go the girl-empowerment route with Sex & The City.

4.) Plan to meet with friends for a fun and physically engaging endeavor. Dancing, skiing, and bowling are just a few of the activities that can be challenging and exciting. Feeling angry? Channel some of that aggression into a paint ball battle!

5.) If your lifestyle is conducive to pet ownership, consider adopting a dog. Dog walks and park meet-ups are great ways to people. And even if you don’t meet the woman or man of your dreams via your dog, loving a pet may be the next best thing.

Valentine’s Day is a moment to celebrate important relationships in our lives—romantic or otherwise. Remember that friends and other loved ones can be included in the holiday.

Why should couples have all the fun of Valentine’s Day?!

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