Wednesday, November 18, 2009
GUEST BLOGGER: Amanda Kane, LSW
A Holiday Reminder...
Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, the Winter Solstice...the holidays simultaneously bring mirth and stress. Finding the perfect gift, baking Christmas cookies, marinating the turkey—as well as countless other activities—can easily take over every moment of free time from now until January. Even during the busiest times, it is important to set aside some quiet time with your romantic partner.
Taking some time to reconnect to your loved one allows you to tune into each other and tune out some of the holiday noise. Consider taking a short after dinner walk with your husband or wife. I think a brief evening jaunt is perfect because it gets the couple out of the house and away from distractions (like the phone and kids). It can be as long or as brief as you wish.
But don't just talk daily "business" with your spouse. (And by "business" I mean who is carpooling this weekend or what little Timmy wants for Christmas. Instead, ask your partner an open-ended question. How are you? This is a simple yet solid place to start. When asked from a place of true caring, this question yields fascinating and rich information. It encourages your partner to open up and communicate, which is a crucial element in maintaining a relationship any time of year.