Monday, August 31, 2009
Socializing Independent of Your Relationship
One of the most common pitfalls that strike couples is codependence – or the tendency to merge and lose each individual’s identity. Too often socializing separately generates anxiety and insecurities for one or both partners, so the couple often learns to avoid socializing with friends when the other partner isn’t there.
If you are in a relationship, it is critical that you regularly allow yourself to socialize with your friends by having a girls’ or guys’ night out. True, you probably love to spend time with your partner, but you can sometimes appreciate your partner even more if you let the relationship grow more independent legs.
Most importantly, you can often prevent yourself from losing yourself to your relationship as long as you are focusing on your needs and keeping in mind that you must still know how to function happily on your own even if you are in a romantic relationship. To take the accurate temperature of where you stand when it comes to this issue, ask a trusted friend whether he or she thinks you are truly balancing socializing together and socializing independently. Finally, have a conversation with your partner about this – you might be surprised by the discussion to follow!