Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Monday, January 5, 2009

When Married Couples Date

Recently I was asked by the editor of a popular website, Mommie911, to write an article about rekindling romance among couples who become all-absorbed by the task of raising small children. After I finished the article, it occurred to me that couples with small children aren’t the only ones who need to rekindle a little romance.

I started thinking about how many couples who have been together a long time probably don’t spend a lot of time or energy coming up with fresh date ideas. In all likelihood, they have fallen in to their patterns – returning to the same restaurants, repeating some of their favorite vacations, and socializing with the same set of friends.

I am here to suggest that you try something different in 2009. The beginning of a new year is a great time to start creating new patterns. Ever heard of a wine-of-the-month club or something to that effect? What about a date of the month club?

You and your loved one could come up with a list of fun, exciting things to do once a month, and make that plan a reality. Try doing things that stimulate the senses – take a massage or cooking class, or put on your athletic clothes and do something outdoors.

The point is that it is important to refresh your romantic batteries, and one of the best ways to do this is to put energy into creating meaningful dates that will bring the two of you close together.

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