Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Seth Meyers, Clinical Psychologist

Monday, August 18, 2008

The Anniversary Ritual: Why It's A Good Thing

For those of you in a romantic relationship, you must celebrate your anniversary. Many people frown on sentimentality, thinking that true sophisticates don't need silly rituals to prove or reinforce their love. Others simply get caught up in the daily grind and feel they don't have time to do every single thing society tells you that you should do.

Celebrating an anniversary is a ritual, and rituals are a good thing. As long as you don't go hog wild and turn your rituals into OCD, rituals reinforce your identity and give you a sense of place and balance in the world.

One of the reasons why celebrating an anniversary is so important is because it gives you a chance to remember how far you have come as a couple. It also gives you a chance to feel proud of yourself and proud of the two of you as a team. We all know that relationships can be difficult and that they take work. I believe we don't get enough petting in our daily life. Not everyone is like the ladies on "The View" who get a daily standing ovation just for showing up to work and walking out to see their waiting audience.

Achieving another year together as a couple is an accomplishment, as long as the relationship is reasonably healthy. I'm sure every couple faced one or two emotional hurdles together to get to that point, and this is something you should feel good about.

Rituals that reinforce your strength and goodness are important. It is important for you to engage in behaviors that push your forward rather than keep you stagnant or move you back.

Make sure the next time you get to a year with your partner that you do something extra special. Let yourself feel proud of your accomplishment as an individual and as a couple when you celebrate this critical ritual!

1 comment:

Amanda said...

I love that you brought "The View" into this essay. And I couldn't agree more about the importance of celebrating anniversaries. Rituals are a necessary part of life and celebrate continuity. Even small daily rituals can help strenghten and maintain relationships.